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Friends & Family

 I want to have serious conversations and if you are a boyfriend, girlfriend, friend, family that would limit us. So you are nothing to me. 


You ask why I say that, having a friend or family is limited already. I see everyone as themself, as me, as one and so for example the person called my mother, that’s the person who birthed me has met people who traditionally were called my friends because I didn’t have those groups. My perspective is not fragmented in that arena, so they are not different groups they are just all the people. While you may choose to see divisions in social relations these divisions are conflict. Since you view living as conflict that is fine but a spiritual living is one that ends conflict. 


So if I am serious I do not have groups separated by ideas in my head rather the fact is we are people, there is nothing beyond the fact that one of those people birthed me and the other I met on a bus. All of them there is a level of intimacy, not because of a social grouping but because of what is most comfortable for the both of us.


I see a danger of further dividing those people into more obscure social groupings such as friend or family or even further to say bestfriend. I am serious about it because the alternative is dangerous. 


So when I say I have no friend or family it doesn’t mean a state of isolation. I ofcourse have relationships but I do not group them into these social things which are conflict. 


There is an expectation that comes with friend, and an expectation is disappointment. So when I drop the label I have a much more freeing relationship with you. To me you are just you, you don’t need to be family or friend, you will know this when we relate, we will be just fine without the commitment and we will not have conflict around such silly things. I expect nothing from you, it’s love I have for you and that’s because i am not using you. I just love you. 


You may fight for the traditional convention but it has always had conflict. Reality is conflict is part of what is fun, it makes great entertainment. So voila, keep it you shall. 


But as for me… 😂

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