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When people genuinely love each other there is no need for boundaries



When we love each other we do not need to set boundaries. Love overcomes the need for boundaries. It is when there is no love that boundaries exist. 


If you love each other naturally you won’t hurt each other. However when there is contempt for each other we will hurt each other and then we will set boundaries. 


Boundaries are not a natural part of our relationships. They are like borders, they are created because we have been hurt. They are created out of fear. When you become aware that someone can hurt you, you have to create a border / a boundary so that they do not hurt you. 


Living in boundaries is limited. Rather live in love. We force ourselves into relationships that require boundaries as we have come to understand relationship as synonymous with conflict. We thrive from the ups and downs of relationships and thus we need boundaries from the very people that we say we love. Is it not possible to live without hurting each other? 


Do you want to be in love or in boundaries? It would seem natural to answer towards love but we are so deeply conditioned to hurting each other.  

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